Posted by SoloDads Editorial Team
on August 26, 2025
Your daughter’s first period is a milestone. With the right words and a calm tone, you can make it feel normal, supported, and no big deal. This guide gives you simple steps, practical prep, and word-for-word scripts.
Common Signs It’s Coming
- Body changes — breast development, growth spurts.
- Discharge — a normal sign the body is preparing.
- Mood/energy shifts — a bit more sensitive or tired.
Reassure her these changes are healthy and normal. Your calm is her anchor.
Practical Prep (Your Starter Kit)
- Unscented pads (2 sizes) in a small discreet pouch.
- Spare underwear + zip bag.
- Heating pad or hot water bottle for cramps.
- Pain relief per indicazioni mediche, se necessario.
- A short note for school (see script) and the school nurse contact.
How to Start the Conversation
Pick a quiet, normal moment (e.g., driving, making snacks). Keep it short, clear, and judgment-free.
- Use plain language; avoid slang or jokes that could feel awkward.
- Normalize: “Bodies change at different times — all normal.”
- Invite questions and promise you’ll figure things out together.
Word-for-Word Scripts
Opening:
“Hey, you may notice a small blood stain in your underwear one day. It’s called a period. It means your body is healthy and growing. I’ve got a little kit ready for you so it’s easy.”
When it happens:
“Thanks for telling me. Let’s grab your pouch. We’ll put on a pad — it’s like a soft sticker that goes on underwear. If you feel cramps, we can use the warm pad.”
Reassurance:
“There’s nothing you did wrong. Periods can be a bit annoying, but you’ll get used to them fast. I’m here for anything you need.”
School note (neutral):
“Please allow my daughter access to the restroom and nurse if needed today. Thank you.”
School, Sports & Sleepovers
- School: keep a spare kit in the backpack; know where the nurse’s office is.
- Sports: movement can help cramps; have pads on hand; hydrate.
- Sleepovers: pack the pouch + a quiet heads-up to the host parent if your daughter is comfortable.
Remind her: “You’re in charge of your body. Ask for what you need.”
Get the Full Toolkit
Want step-by-step scripts, a printable first-period checklist, and bonding activities? Explore Navigating Puberty: A Dad’s Toolkit for Supporting His Daughter. Make every conversation simple, calm, and confident.
FAQs
What if I feel awkward or I don’t know an answer?
Say, “Good question — let’s find out together.” Your calm honesty builds trust more than having every detail memorized.
Should I tell other adults (teachers, coach) without her consent?
Ask her first. Share the minimum needed (e.g., a nurse pass) and respect her privacy.
How do I support cramps and mood changes?
Warmth, rest, hydration, light movement, and kind check-ins. If pain is strong or unusual, consult a healthcare professional.
